Welcome and hospitality

Created by Peter 4 years ago

 Although I watched Terry's meteoric career with admiration from a distance and we did meet up face to face once or twice at national events, my abiding memories are from early on in my own career, arriving as a new Probation Officer in Nottingham.  On my first day, when I walked into the staff room mid-morning, Terry was one of those who stood up, welcomed me and sought to find out things about me.  Our paths crossed a little and I joined BASW myself and he made me welcome at local events.  But a year or so after my arrival I changed my lodgings and tried out a new local church and, on that first Sunday, as I came out of church, Terry and Margaret appeared by my side, greeted me warmly and immediately invited me to come home for Sunday lunch.  They had two small children and lots happening, but I was made to feel really welcome and valued.  That event had several consequences.  For a start I decided to attend that church on a regular basis and made lots more friends there!  Subsequently (just as Terry and Margaret were moving on) I myself bought my first house just round the corner from where they had taken me to their home for lunch.  Finally, I subsequently trained as Reader in the Church of England and as a lay minister for the last 34 years in Nottinghamshire & Derbyshire have banged on and on about the importance of that first welcome when people come to church. The story of being invited to lunch that first time has occurred in many sermons!  So whilst I do recall many stimulating discussions about the future of Probation or the nature of social work, it is the warmth, friendship and hospitality I will remember.  This is a sad and sudden loss, but a great life and a very special man.

Peter Lewis, Nottinghamshire Probation Service, Midlands Probation Training Consortium & West Midlands Probation Service (retired)